Starting couples therapy can feel like a big step. For many couples, reaching out for support happens after months or even years of experiencing the same arguments, feeling disconnected, or struggling to understand each other. It is also common to feel uncertain about what therapy will involve. Many people wonder: Will we just argue in front of the therapist? Will someone take sides? Do we have to talk about everything straight away? What if my partner is the problem? These c

What is self-sabotage? Self-sabotage refers to patterns of behaviour where we unintentionally get in the way of our own goals. This might include putting off important tasks, avoiding responsibilities, or holding ourselves back in situations where we actually want to do well. Common examples include procrastination, overthinking, perfectionism, avoiding emails or bills, self-criticism, or struggling to follow through on goals despite strong intentions. Importantly, self-sabot

People pleasing refers to a pattern of prioritising the needs, feelings, and approval of others, often at the expense of your own wellbeing. While being kind, considerate, and supportive are generally positive qualities, people pleasing goes a step further. It may involve struggling to say no, avoiding conflict at all costs, taking responsibility for other people's emotions, or regularly putting your own needs aside to maintain harmony and gain acceptance. While these behavio